She's moving out!

[firedog31d6]

Yes, I just read it and it is encouraging to hear that some sitch's are working out for the best. Oh how I wish I could give some good progress reports!

Last night, W called twice. First time was to tell me that D had won a stuffed animal out of a machine. That conversation went okay. I just giggled and said that she was talented and she gave the phone to D. Then I get a phone call last night and she told me that her 2nd grade teacher had just called her. She said that D was not foccusing and seemed to be having a hard time getting her work done. This is not at all like our child. She is very smart and we have never had a phone call like this from a teacher... especially on the 2nd week of school already. My W said "maybe it's because she had too much sugar over the summer and we need to stop letting her eat so much sweets". She also said that she was being very "defiant" and "disrespectful" to her (my W) and refusing to do what she was told......

I felt like reaching through the phone (I did not though) and asking her if she was really that naive to believe that her decision wasn't having a tragic effect on our D!!!!!! And that the effects of her actions will cause permanent issues like this. I just said "would you like me to have a talk with her?". She puts Emily on the phone and I told the D that she was much smarter than that, and that I was dissappointed to hear that she wasn't doing good in class. I also told her that she needed to do what she was told as if I were there and that just because I wasn't there didn't mean that she could do whatever she wanted... that I would be dealing with her if I kept hearing of such reports etc... She said "yes sir" and then I told her I loved her and would see her on Thursday...She said "I love you too daddy" and handed the phone back to W.

She will never admit that her decision to leave is going to hurt our D in any way. She maintains that "kids are tough" and that she will eventually adapt and overcome....This really urks me to no end that I have to just sit back and watch my family dissolve and my daughter become a statistic and I cannot do anything about it.