Division of labor is equality. that's what my political science teacher taught me.
You are the mommy. Your job is raising the children and nurturing them. You take your job very seriously and care about every little detail.
He is the daddy and breadwinner. He takes that job very seriously and is totally devoted to it. He risks his eyesight to show up on the job when he clearly shouldn't. I imagine he risks other things too.
You wouldn't like him if he was in your way trying to mother your children, and you wouldn't like going out and trying to make half the income too.
OK, he's not nurturing. But you more than compensate for his failure in that area. Yeah, he's got an abrasive personality. He can try to mollify it, but bottom line he is a short-tempered, loud guy. That is who you married.
Make your decisions. they are your decisions to make. Can you live with the man you married? Only you can decide that.
