As a DB strategy...what you are doing is changing things. Your W is definitely thinking. This could be very promising for your M. And I also understand not liking the person she is now...but obviously at some point you loved the person she was and can be.
As a new R...I worry for your chances of success. I understand not wanting to be alone...but this just seems really fast, especially with the kids involved, still living with your W, and not really moving along with the D process.
Trust me, the D process will lead you through another period of loss/grieving. It's a whole other roller coaster that you are going to have to deal with. Just be careful not to drag NH or her kids into it.
I guess I will have to disagree, i think the new R has a good chance. Yes I thought the same about W at one time, but remember i went to my site assignment 3 hours away for sometimes 11 days in a row for 2 years. We were very used to being apart. I think we were S a longtime ago, i had some original shock when she announced she wanted a D, but I had kicked the idea around too. I don't think I will grieve when the D actually happens, i really don't. I just don't think it was ever right, and we rushed into things way back when. I can't answer everyone's posts, but i do appreciate the insight. I am thinking hard about doing the house and if I do, W moves out within a set amount of time. I will be just fine.
