I will see if my caffeine starved brain can conjure up some answers for you. I reserve the right to come back later and add.
1. What did you do to survive?
Initially I joined a gym. I felt too sick to eat and knew I needed to keep my strength up. 2 months later I found this board and I posted obsessively and tried to stay focussed on marital repair and survival. I even clung to false hope (knowing it was likely so) but it was better than nothing.
2. What mistakes did you make?
Believing that H was going to wake up one day and "get it". Trying to make him see the error of his ways. Later, after the M was definitely over - believing that every guy who showed interest was "the one" for me.
3. What was your best victory?
Initially it was keeping the dream house. Later that became less important. Overall - it was in saving myself and my integrity. Learning that I was WHOLE as a single person and I could do it all by myself.
4. What was your worst loss?
Family life. No matter what I do - my children will always be part of a broken family. We have lost our cohesion. It is sometimes a struggle to pull them together. The thoughts of their special times - grads, weddings, birth of my grandchidren - somehow has lost its luster knowing he will be there, possibly with maggot.
5. Are you happier now and why?
I am happy not to have to live with him. Even back then I knew I lived with an unhappy person. He was a person who often brought me down. There was not always harmony in our home. Every little thing I did had to run past someone else. I can now make my own decisions and feel great about that.
