We're never getting back together-How do you cope?

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'Should I tell my friend that knows him to say something, or should I just leave it? '

Personally, I would try to avoid all attempts at 'meddling'. It has the potential to get back to her and backfire on you.

Re: Son's Birthday

Do people drink at 5 yo.'s b'days as a rule, or just your BIL and her brother ? Again, sounds a bit odd.

If it were me, I would make a showing for the kid and get out asap. Sounds like a really messed up situation.


"I'm still not sure on the whole contacting her first, it's good and bad either way, and for today, i'm looking for opinions on it before I make a move,"

My thought is that if you make contact first, make it short and lighthearted. Or talk about kids. Just don't press her to talk about R. Also, I would be careful about contacting her too often. In my case I know it irritates my W if I bother her too much, especially if she is at work.

To tell you the truth, my W's behavior has really disappointed me. She isn't and never has made it easy for me to love her, at least not since we got married. Sometimes I wonder if it's worth it. I want to have a happy family for my 6yo.D, but I don't know if W can ever really be a part of that. She seems hooked on drama. Sometimes I get really angry about it. Anyway, at this stage in our R, I am going to pull back a little bit. She seems a bit more irritable lately. I'm so tired of being the target for all her frustrations.