Up - aren't you essentially answering your own question? And if you are disappointed (or miffed?), is that really how you want to be when you go away with him? Are you in the best frame of mind to be with him this weekend? Would it be better to let him miss you a little?
Trust me, I have thought about that. We have not spent 24 consecutive hours together in over a year and a half. I am not sure I am ready to do this on a weekend where his D is involved...BUT this may be my only opportunity to go away for a weekend with him for quite some time. Between my kid's schedule and my H's upcoming trial schedule, we may not get to see much of each other.
Hey na-
Originally Posted By: new_attitude
Remember that part of DBing is asking for what you want.
I have to remember this...it is something I don't typically do. Pre-bomb, I used to tell him all of the time all of the things I didn't want or didn't like. That is such a negative way of handling things. I need to give more positive reinforcement and let him know what I do want and what I do like. Thanks for the reminder.
Hello glam-
Originally Posted By: glamgirl
I know this is most difficult, but let him chase you or invite you. Wouldn't that feel better?
I am not chasing him but wrong or right, I did let him know that I didn't find 5 days of not talking working on our M. I tried not to blame him, I just let him know (without using the words) that my feelings were hurt. I admit I am not a perfect DBer...in fact, I am amazed I have done as well as I have.
When you see positives, it is so difficult when they digress. I can see that is what my H is doing right now...He did come over yesterday and all was well then...he kept telling me how pretty he thought I looked, he referred to himself as my husband in front of our friends, gave me kisses before he left and told me how he wanted to see me this week. He told me he would call me today to talk about this weekend, but I heard nothing from him.
When you see those positives, it is hard not to expect them to keep coming. Because of all of the times I have gotten my hopes up a little only to have them get squashed, I have to wonder if I will become so numb that I won't ever be able to feel much of anything ever again.
Thanks for all of you thoughts. I appreciate you all so much.
