Bottom line....when I hear that he makes such selfish comments it really makes me hate him.
CW, I can certainly empathize with you on that one, and my anger and frustration can quickly turn into rage when it has something to do with our boys. Particularly, when they try to tell their dad how they feel...after he's told them it's ok - just be honest....then when he doesn't like what he hears, uh oh! Look out. It suddenly becomes all about H again, and his feelings, and how hard he works to provide for us, and how tiring it is....it goes on and on, until he's guilted everyone into feeling like the bad guy.
They can be real jerks. Real selfish ones.
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Not once has he stopped to consider what this has done to our D.
Hmm....Not so sure about this one though. You're not in his head, remember? No one knows what goes through it every minute of every day, every week, etc but HIM.
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God this makes me so angry with him because he gets of scott free never having to worry about what he's done to her and our family.
Again, read above. But I do understand your feelings. I have felt that very same thing myself many, many times. It used to anger me (and still does sometimes) that H could just pack up and leave so easily, and I am expected to stay put and clean up the emotional mess he left/leaves behind. I start to feel disgust towards him, wanting to call him a quitter....but then I stop myself....because I know I am better than that and that I do not want to live with bitterness inside.
(((((CW)))))
Resign to the fact that you can only control yourself and what goes on in your own inner world. He acted like an a$$ with D, and he'll pay for it eventually (karma ). Just be there for your D - her listening ear, her shoulder to cry on, her strength when she's feeling like she has none. Kids need a lot of love and reassurance during these terrible times, and no matter how angry you become with her father, refrain from negative remarks about him. Lord knows I've wanted to call my boys' dad a thing or two , but that isn't honorable. Best to take the high road.
Hang in there and be strong. (((CW)))
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
). Just be there for your D - her listening ear, her shoulder to cry on, her strength when she's feeling like she has none. Kids need a lot of love and reassurance during these terrible times, and no matter how angry you become with her father, refrain from negative remarks about him. Lord knows I've wanted to call my boys' dad a thing or two 
, but that isn't honorable. Best to take the high road.
