let him feel the love!! also, because it sounds like he's had trouble finding people to go to special events with him, it's possible he could really appreciate your company at the game too, as well as the gesture of you working so friggin' hard to find those tickets!!!!
LOVELOVELOVE T
(((T))) Your the best. I so appreciate the way you think! Again I realised that H is lonely - on the weekend there was a big festival. I went with girlfriends. H went by himself and took photos of the fireworks by himself. He said he felt like a geek! He probably does need a bit of love!
(((((Future Girl))))) It's such a gorgeous and generous thing that you've done in finding them for him that I'm sure he'll appreciate it at some level.
so he might cycle between seeing you and backing into his cave. Two steps forward, one back and all that. Keep being your awesome patient strong self.
(((One Day))) I always appreciate your advice. Thanks for stopping by. I can see H stepping forwards and then backwards. Thanks for reminding me to be patient (aaaaahhhh - not one of my natural virtues!) I hope H appreciates the tickets on some level.
He will, I'm sure of it. It made me so sad to think of your H going to the fireworks by himself. He needs a lot of good hugs and a lot more of that sweet Essie-ness you have!
And if you're not patient, I could not name someone who was!
Hey, I was talking to my H about you and he wanted to know we met (it came about because of talking about possums, you'll be pleased to hear!). Funny- I didn't have a good explanation so just said I often took trips to the future!
How are you? I hope things are going well. (((((((Essie))))))
I saw you were asking about coaching sessions? I really recommend it as mine have been great and soooo helpful. I started off just buying one to try it out and see if it would help and I have had 3 so far.
I have been reading your threads as my h doesn't have much contact with me. It's really amazing how well you have done and your patience has really paid off.
I just read your update about the weekend- that's AMAZING! I'm so glad you were busy and unavailable, and that H lay on the bed with you and kissed you so much. Sorry I missed it in my last post. You're an inspiration Essie!
3 Coaching sessions for sure. It's hard to rebuild things, I've read. Harder than DBing, but I know you'll do it. Has H actually brought up any R talks?
Essie, I cant believe the progress you are having!!! My God!! I am happy for you. A bit delayed, don't know if you decided yet, give him the tickets, no expectations. Maybe even go further and say you already have plans but you wanted him "to go with a good friend of his and maybe celebrate together next day, the actual bday?"
Sex? Oh dear... I admire your restraint (correct?) granted the 1 year apart... One thing I know is that men need to feel manly as Lisa said. Make sure you do that and see where it leads you...
