H had paged me earlier when I was at work but I couldn't return his page as I was in a meeting with the president of our company. When I did get a chance to call him back he mentioned that D had forgotten her school books at my house so H had to take her to my dad's to borrow his key to my house to have D go in and get them....H sounded irritated by this. I went by to see my dad tonight and he mentioned that when D came in to get the key she looked like she had been crying, but she didn't say why. Sooooooo...tonight when she calls to ask for help with her homework she says she had a tiff with her father that began with him expressing how inconvenient it was for him to keep having to go and pick up stuff D had forgotten from my house. Apparently D responded with "and whose fault is that??!!". H didn't like this very much and got angry with her, making her cry and then apparently started crying himself saying "no one cares about him and what he wants".
So I hear this story and I tell D maybe it's best for her not to say things like that to her dad. Anyone have any thoughts on this??? I feel like I don't want to screw her up anymore than she already is by giving her bad advice about what she should and shouldn't say to her dad.
Bottom line....when I hear that he makes such selfish comments it really makes me hate him. Not once has he stopped to consider what this has done to our D. Just this weekend she was being a little pissy and when I asked her what was going on she burst into tears saying she just wanted her family back and all she could think about was what a great day she had been having the day H decided to drop the bomb on both of us and that she thinks of her life in two phases....before her dad left and after. God this makes me so angry with him because he gets of scott free never having to worry about what he's done to her and our family. Of course, the other side of me says we are both better off without a person that has such little regard for our welfare and why would I want someone that doesn't want to be with me to come back just for our D. Lord I'm confused.
Anyway, H also called a little bit ago to tell me he's coming on Sunday to get the rest of his stuff....seems like I need to get resigned to the fact that he's never coming back.
