I am really sorry that this happened. It is good that you told her you are there for her. That is all you can do right now. She is having to face the mess she created, let her do it.
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Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
BC, I'm so sorrry. This must have hit you like a ton of bricks. I agree with Puppy, don't make any hasty decisions. Take time to think before you speak, no matter what it is. Just listening will speak volumes to her...
Hugs, Yoyo
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
I am being nothing but caring and concerned for her welfare. Trying not to rescue..... The other man doesn't want her to keep the baby or have anything to do with her.
Hurt for her so much....trying for us all
M 31 W 26 M 6 S 6 S 3 Separated 6/2008 Back together 10/2008 All you need is love
Yikes!!! Well that may explain some of her behavior. I'm so very sorry. No matter what road you and your wife decide to take, there's a lot of healing and rebuilding that will need to be done. {{{hugs}}}
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
As for many who have said it I am so sorry as well. Your actions speak so much for how you feel about her but make sure to take care of yourself as well. There is a long journey ahead for you and for her. We are all here for you.
Me35/H35 D16/SS14 M-1yr/known H 18yrs 1st Bomb: 4/26 OW35 2nd Bomb: 8/17 OW21 Moved out 8/21/08 H filed D on 9/9/08
God determines who walks into your life...it's up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go.
I took my wife's hand and told her I was here for her
Good for you, BC. Just because you don't agree with her choices, doesn't mean you can't give grace, and forgiveness, and support. Just don't RESCUE; instead, VALIDATE.
Never rescue an adulterer from the consequences of their adultery.
Puppy
((((BC)))) I am so very sorry. I am on the other side of this issue. My H has a pregnant OW. There is going to be a TON of emotions, no matter what your W chooses to do. Like Puppy says, give grace, forgiveness (it'll come in time) and support. Its really all you can do. I will keep an eye on your thread and try to be as much help as I can. (((((hugs))))) Suga
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
Its a drag knowing that there is a pregnancy within a marriage that isn't between the two that are married. I so get it.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
