As for your H and saying he doesn't love you. Maybe you believe in Cupid's arrows. I don't. Love is a decision. Wee can decide to be open and love someone, and we can decide to be closed and not love. You don't fall in and out of love with your child. Why? Because even if your child is severely handicapped, he is yours and you actively make the choice to love him. Love is more like a muscle. The more you exercise it, the stronger it gets.
I think he has decided that he doesn't love you. thus, he no longer feels love and the feeling does not return. He sees himself as a passive recipient of no love feelings. But he isn't. He is active, and he protecting himself by not feeling love.
