Maybe I should have changed the ages to what they were when this conversation took place. I think my older son was about 11 and my younger son was about 4. And they didn't fight over it. The little one just felt betrayed by me because I had given the moon to big brother before I ever gave it to him. And he knew what that meant. It would never be his moon. But I must admit, he did lay claim to the ocean. It is his ocean. (Don't tell your kids. It can be their ocean too.)
Lwb... Kids are great.. That comment about being married to the chicken..How sad... im sorry.
The boys are the light in my life, they may make me crazy, but they are the most loving boys I could ever ask for. S2 were laying in bed (the boys sleep with me with H is away) and he says "I love you mama" ... Melt away I did
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Sorry to read that your Baby was sick over the weekend. Sorry too that you had to nurse her back all by yourself but then you've probably done that many times before and never really gave it a 2nd thought.
You're story of your little ones brought a smile to my face. I hope that you do better than I did and get this written down somewhere. I have forgotten so much and am only reminded of it now when someone who was their reminds me. So sad. In retrospect it's all goes by in the blink of an eye...sigh!
Anyway, dinner sounded wonderful and you sound so strong. Good for you for being the woman you were meant to be!
I was talking to my son about having filet mignon for dinner. He laughed and told me when he was younger he always thought it was 'flaming yon' which sounded really weird so he'd never eat it.
H is a unhappy grumpy jerk. I got home from work at 1am and found H asleep in MY bed with the girls. Sweet and ew at the same time. H was coming off four 15 hour days so I know he was tired. I moved the girls to their beds, and woke H. It took a long time. He was so grumpy, he yelled at me to stopped being so "(*&(* pushy". I didn't say a word and he went downstairs. To the couch. Not to his dads.
Sigh. I can only push so far until H will become nasty. He is being territorial/pushy/insensitive/disrespectful/lazy/wimpy/whatever and I can't do much else. It is still his house too, which he hasn't used that card yet, but I am sure he will. Its silly to do something legal at this point with the D happening in a month. If I push anymore before we have signed off on the agreements, there might be trouble. I am not scared of him, but want what he has agreed to, and don't want to mess with that. Make sense?
I am going to use his meanness to detach even more. I will be ok.
I think you are right to pick your battles. There is an expiration date on his ability to do this. I wouldn't force the issue either. At least he is being reliable at work again. Seems like not long ago he was habitually late and in danger of firing. I'm glad to see that he shaped up.
And yes, in many ways, he has gotten better. He promised to do this HUGE to-do list to the house before the D happened. I never asked once, and the list is almost done. He works non stop on the house on his off days, and his off days are rare. Not only does he get to work on time, but he picks up overtime whenever possible, and has worked weeks in a row without off days. He also is very reliable with the girls so I can go to work, and still keeps the house spotless when he watches them.
Just doesn't want to stay married.
In all seriousness though, it would not have done anyone any good for him to lose his job, nor will it do me any good to push push push at this point, and have to fight for what he is already agreeing to at this point.
