Gee Frank, Your thread and the comments you and other people make to it, are so interesting. I am finding some of myself in you. I am also finding a lot of negative emotions in myself as Amy pointed out in her "darkest moments."
If you don't mind, Frank, I would like to ask Amy if she would very much mind if I hijack her to a thread of mine for just a bit. I promise I won't keep her long. Here is what I propose. I have recently logged into DivorceBusting.com with an additional screen name. I have the same fear that my H has found this site, Amy. And I hesitate putting some of the hurting and hurtful stuff into my thread. I would like to post a long one for Amy to read, if that's OK with you Amy (and anyone else who wishes to try to help me).
I'll check back to see if this is OK and to give my new/other screen name.