What are your goals for WAS?

[No Longer BH]

Tipper - thanks for sharing your goals. Some questions for you. You say you want H to move back in, how can you break that down into babysteps? Maybe it could be H spend the night at least once a week. That way you still see progress.

I like your goal on H going to more family functions. This helps you measure how comfortable he is becoming back into the fold of things.

As far as his drinking, my only advice is to be honest with him on how you feel. Do you feel that he is committed to R or is he still on the fence? Walking on eggshells can be very detrimental to any R, not to mention your self esteem. Only you are able to know what you can handle and when you have had enough. Just do not let HIS actions bring you down to that needy place again. You worked too hard at becoming strong, dont slip back into old patterns. Maybe a goal could be H passes up drinking one night to go out with me instead.

Thanks for your goals. I think it helps to have other brainstorm with us so we can look at the positives instead of the negatives.