Thanks so much for checking in on me. I've been up and down alot lately. I'm finding it hard not to think of our money concerns and lately I've been stressing out about it quite a bit. I HATE that I don't know the details of what he owes, who he owes it to, etc. He told me in a C session about 3 months ago that he would give me a list so we could make up a budget. He hasn't done that yet. He also told me a couple of weeks ago that he was planning to write to the creditor that he's in trouble with to try to work out a better plan than what they've offered, but he hasn't done that either.
He told me a couple of weeks ago that he'd be increasing the amount he transfers for household expenses and he hasn't done that yet either. For the past year, I have been paying about 75% of our household expenses and frankly I'm tired of it. I'm starting to feel like he's taking advantage of me.
ST- I appreciate your encouraging words. Thank you.
Ingrid- I've been thinking of you and I'm glad you took the time to write on my thread. I'm sorry things aren't going better for you. I'm already screening our calls and when I spoke with the collection agency last (several weeks ago) I made sure they had h's cell phone#. Thankfully my name is not on the account. This is one of h's secret cards that he used to rack up huge gambling debts.
Upside- I wish the reason that I haven't been on the board is because h and I were off in an idyllic place, sipping strawberry margaritas while the children played quietly and happily nearby! Ha! Not quite. I've just been very busy at work and when I'm at home I don't have much time to get on the computer. I still don't get onto this site when h is around. My little secret.
Tipper- You made me smile when you said you were proud of me for hanging the tp holder! I guess I should celebrate the little accomplishments, right? I'm sorry you had to go through your h's bankruptcy and losing your house to foreclosure- how awful. It is daunting, especially when I'm doing all I can to keep the household going.
So, now that I've vented, I will try to post some positives, which is not going to be easy given the mood that I'm in today.
Positives: We're connecting a little more physically. We had a nice weekend at my parents' house. He is so nice to my family. He's coaching my d8's soccer team and is very committed to being a good coach. He hung a new mirror for me in our bathroom and helped hang a new towel rack when I had problems with it (see, I have a hard time when I have to do something beyond a tp holder!)
