N, It's very difficult to see our family go home after being w/you for a period of time. You got quite a bit accomplished and enjoy their company as well. Now you will need to sit down and make a list of things that you can all on your own until their next visit. They don't have to be all chores. Plan some fun things too.
N, you just never know...your xh may call or send you a note some day when you least expect it. It took my xh 6 years to send me a note beginning me to be friends. Now, mind you, he had been married about a year when he posted to me. I maintain my distance because I have enough going on in my life w/o listening to him still sitting on the pity pot.
No, you aren't crazy to give up on him, but I do think your relationship w/him will be very different from the one you had when he was married to you. The friendship and getting to know them again is very different because you've been hurt and the trust is gone, so you have to start all over again and then there's the ow in the mix as well. It's all going to be up to you as to whether you want to be friends w/him when he does reach out or not.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
