You have been super busy with your parents which is good. Sounds like they are taking very good care of you.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Hi nlt, I am glad that you are enjoying the time with your parents. I hope that hurricane Gustav will not affect your area too much, but that you will get the much needed rain. Have a nice week. (((HUGS)))
I've been so busy with my parents! We finally finished getting the vinyl siding up, I'm so tired!! We made homemade ice cream, my Mom makes the best!! My parents are taking great care of me!!
I got really sad this afternoon, I didn't let them know but I just miss my H so bad right now. Working on the house & stuff, he & I used to do that together. I enjoyed working on it with my Dad but I sure miss H. It's almost been a year since the bomb, I just can't believe this has happened!!!
Hurricane Gustav is going to miss us completely. We are not even going to get rain out of it. I think where my H is he will probably get some. The next one that is out in the Atlantic now, I think Hanna, they said that might go east of us & no rain, but if it turns a little we might get some.
Thank you for checking in on me & I will get caught up with your threads soon!
Gosh, the ice cream sounds really good now. You would not believe how humid it has been for us here in the desert!! We have been getting bit by mosquitoes!!!
I am glad you have your parents there for you.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Oh, it was hot & humid here today to but not like being in the desert. The ice cream was great, we had been working outside all day. The mosquitoes love me!!!! I get bit everyday. We also have that west nile virus around here, hopefully I won't get it but some people have. I put bug spray on which I hate to but sometimes it doesn't even work.
My parents have been wonderful for me!!! They will go back tomorrow so it will be sad around here. I'm trying to be as strong as you have been MWG! I'm having a hard time right now.
Am I crazy not to just give up on my ex since he did marry OW? I can't imagine me never seeing or being with him again, I could be wrong.
You do what you feel is in your heart and what you are led by God to do.
Not everyone can do that but you have to go with what you think is right for you.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
N, It's very difficult to see our family go home after being w/you for a period of time. You got quite a bit accomplished and enjoy their company as well. Now you will need to sit down and make a list of things that you can all on your own until their next visit. They don't have to be all chores. Plan some fun things too.
N, you just never know...your xh may call or send you a note some day when you least expect it. It took my xh 6 years to send me a note beginning me to be friends. Now, mind you, he had been married about a year when he posted to me. I maintain my distance because I have enough going on in my life w/o listening to him still sitting on the pity pot.
No, you aren't crazy to give up on him, but I do think your relationship w/him will be very different from the one you had when he was married to you. The friendship and getting to know them again is very different because you've been hurt and the trust is gone, so you have to start all over again and then there's the ow in the mix as well. It's all going to be up to you as to whether you want to be friends w/him when he does reach out or not.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Thank you everyone!!! It is sad when they go home & the house is so quite now. Their dog is a handful but he is so fun & he loves to play with my dogs, they keep us entertained.
I love them being here but I was also ready to be alone & cry. I did ok, I didn't cry much. I mowed the yard & then tonight I started back on my cross stitch project.
Thank you also for letting me know that I'm not crazy for not giving up on ex. I guess I'm still looking for the man I married. I'm sure it will be very different & difficult. I know if that ever happens it will take lots of C. I hope & pray for that opportunity, but then again, can I handle all of it? Right now I want to try but it could be different later on. I'll just have to leave it in God's hands. I'm really trying.
