N_A, Hey there. I just want to say that I am very proud of you for hanging the toilet paper holder. You should feel good about yourself for being able to take care of some of the small things.
When it comes to the $ stuff, I know what you mean. You feel like you cant help, they got themselves into the money trouble and they are also the ones that need to get themselves out of it. Unfortunately we get stuck in between, since financials are usually shared in a M.
My H went bankrupt about two months before he left me. The stress the bankruptcy brought on us was unbearable. We ended up losing our first house in a forclosure due to his financial troubles. It stunk. There is not much here I have to suggest for advice, other than the fact that I have been through it with my H and I know how you feel. It is very daunting.
On a better note, since my H's bankruptcy - he has been able to see that that was the core of our problems, it is what caused him to be so depressed and start drinking. He now is getting his feet underneith himself. He no longer uses credit. He is waiting to save up for the things he wants instead of going for instant gratification buys that got him into trouble. He is slowly learning to be more responsible with his money. He still has a ways to go, but I can definetly see a difference in his spending.
Well, I hope your time with your H is going well. And have faith that your H can pull through this. Take care, TIPPER
