Regarding the children choosing the opposite parent to stay with post-separation may have to do with the kids trying to hang on to the parent they feel less connected to. They may, out of desperation, think they can hold on to the family by staying with the parent they identify with less. I dont really know.

I apologize for not being familiar with all of your posts but have you called any of the DB counselors? They are worth every penny. (This is an unpaid endorsement \:\) )


Me:56, W:51
D:26,S:24,S:22
Married:18
Bomb 9/27/06
Separated 11/27/06
Divorced 10/6/08
Leaving it up to God