Oh, I just shouldn't have even have bothered telling her off all day. Fruitless. Sorry those things needed to be said. I texted so much I can't even begin to tell you. I felt like I was talking to her though. A bit one sided, but she would text back occasional things.
If anybody will screw it up, I would rather it be me.
I guess I'm still confused because I am trying to find what works. Nothing.
I mean i never texted her all day. Did it work? Did I get my way? Did anything sink in? Well she did have the kids call back. I did say no to having the kids at parents for too long.
I did say her dad is a coward. Because he is. So be it. I did tell her that she is putting everyone in the middle, and ripping the whole family apart.
You know she didn't text back one negative thing. Like you were a drunk, or you were abusive or anything. She didn't text shut up. or anything like that. But she did text please give me a divorce. So maybe she didn't even read half them. Maybe the phone is off. But it could not have been. Since it rang five times and went to voice mail.
Maybe these are things she needs to hear. The why and how I always loved you. Now just let it sink in... I'll leave her alone for the rest of the day.
Regarding the children choosing the opposite parent to stay with post-separation may have to do with the kids trying to hang on to the parent they feel less connected to. They may, out of desperation, think they can hold on to the family by staying with the parent they identify with less. I dont really know.
I apologize for not being familiar with all of your posts but have you called any of the DB counselors? They are worth every penny. (This is an unpaid endorsement )
Me:56, W:51 D:26,S:24,S:22 Married:18 Bomb 9/27/06 Separated 11/27/06 Divorced 10/6/08 Leaving it up to God
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