I got lost but look what I found.

[happycamper]

Really sorry to hear about your difficult time with H. Isn't it funny, we go skipping along, thinking we've made really good progress (which we have) and then we see them and we get really upset about something! You sound like me!

It is strange to deal with our Ps lying (especially if we're not used to it), but I always think of the lying coming out of shame/fear. In my experience, my H lies because he has something to hide and he is terrified of me finding out. Lying comes out of weakness, I reckon.

I know you are trying to maintain a good R with your H, so I'll pass on one of my favourite quotes from my favourite preacher, which I often use as my mantra - "Hurting people hurt people". It's not useful if you want to hate them! It's true though, they hurt because they are hurt. It motivates me to be gracious about my H.

There is no doubt, you are the stronger one in all this.