I am "cautiously optomistic" (stealing TwinDad's line) that my H might be starting to come out of the tunnel. But all of the things that BND wrote........ my H said to me.
I have never felt such pain. Words can be a very sharp weapon, and my H said things that hurt me like nobody else ever has.
It got to the point that I began to write them down.It helped me to be able to get it out on paper, and sometimes be able to read them again when I was not so emotional.
That was before I found this b and began to talk to you all. After a while, after reading that so many S's were saying the very same things, I began to laugh at how crazy the things he was saying really were.
It is a lot easier to sort out the bs if you believe in yourself. You know in your heart what was good between you and what wasn't.
Work on the stuff that wasn't. Work on detaching. Spend time with happy, centered people. It's nice to be with "normal" people when the Aliens abduct our S's.
Hang in there!
Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.
