As I told JWS, I have a hard time not believing what he says about me. I advance my confidence, he does or says X, my confidence retreats.
Hi there IAL. JWS' reply was spot on. I had a similar experience to his in that I had some friends tell me how they see me and my jaw was on the floor. That doesn't however mean that when I'm with my W, that I act that way. It's hard to not fall into the familiar behavior patterns after so many years. Then to compound the problem, most of those patterns aren't helpful and they are used to us responding in a certain way and when we don't there is a decent likelihood of conflict and I imagine than many of us are like me and still wanting to make them happy so they will like us and come back. Ugh.
I caught up a bit on your situation and I must say that grabbing a quick trip out to the coast was awesome.
Hang in there, we're here for you just like you're here for us.
