Well, what a wonderful weekend full a wonderful surprises! Not!
At the end of my last thread, I updated that H told D the girl he lives with wants to meet her and asked if she wanted to meet her too.
Well, that was D trying to tell me something she was afraid to tell me. She finally told me and promised me not to kill daddy about it because she promised him she would keep the secret!
Anyway, H brought D to his place last Saturday and she met OW! I didn't know OW was still in the picture since H swears up and down that he's not with anyone! She said they went to H's place, hung out for a bit, she met his 2 cats (he's allergic!) and met his girlfriend. Then they went to a festival together and they all held hands plus OW and daddy held hands by themselves too. I tm H about this and he went off! Telling me he's not f'ing lying and he doesn't have an f'ing girlfriend and D met his roomate's girlfriend. Really? Then why were they holding hands at the fest together??? And, the simplest fact is that H and I agreed that he wouldn't take D to his place since I don't know where he lives, who his friends are, etc and we agreed that we don't want D in that sitch. And now this????
I'm crushed and feel like I'm back to square one. H repeatedly told me he doesn't want a divorce, but he's with someone else this whole time?????
He really thinks an 8 year old is going to keep this information secret??? Kids are so much smarter then people give them credit for.
What is he thinking????
How about the three of you do things together as a family so she is not subjected to daddy's other friends? I know, sounds impossible, right?
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Yep, I know! And even know he's emailing me insisting that never happened. That it's his room mate's gfriend and she went to the fest to see a band while H and D went to walk around and go to the park. Simple fact is he still brought her where he wasn't supposed to and lied about it! I've got to start ignoring him if/when he decides to call us!
Next time, put a camera with speaker phone in her bag so the whole thing is on tape.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
She didn't bring a bag. Never does since she's usually only there for 4 hours. Saturday, when this took place, he asked to have her until 7:30 saying "I'm trying to do the right thing Dar. I want to start getting this right for her, you and me." What a crock of sh it!
Dar, DETACH!!! Right now try really hard to live your life without him. You have a great job, and a beautiful daughter, you do not NEED him. He needs to go through his crisis on his terms and on his timeline, there is no rushing these things. Try hard to keep things strictly business. Money and your Daughter's best interest.
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
