First off, let me remind you that no 2 situations are the same. How Frosty and Pam's situations turned out might be the opposite of yours. Frosty pokes her head on my thread from time to time and so does Pam, but not too much these days. They have moved on.
You absolutely MUST stop focussing on him and what he is doing every minute. Because even if things were to change - change in these situations comes around VERY slowly. I understand what you are doing - I did it all the time myself but sitting by the phone and waiting for him is the opposite of detaching. You might talk the talk - but you have to walk the walk. Letting go, dropping the rope - that means not spending all your time thinking about him too.
Do what YOU have to do. But get out and visit friends. Or join a club. Or go to couselling. Or the movies. But stop worrying about him. Because nothing you do or say is going to make a difference right now. The only time he might even poke his head around you is if you are still. Silent. No contact. Seem busy. Get it?
I hate to be blunt but your actions and words are 2 different things right now and you must listen and start to refocus. Because whether he returns or whether he doesn't - you have to get a life and get on with it.
Now - I want to hear what you did today for yourself.
