Don't you just love lwb? "Not Just Friends" is a great book giving the perspective from the cheated on spouse, the wayward spouse and the other partnet. Very eye opening.
As far as snooping goes, once you know the basics the additional facts, rumors or signs don't do anything for me, aside from bringing me down.
Yesterday I was on a high.. I'd gotten a note from him that in the past would have made me cry. I knew who to call to help me sort it out. I was busy giving myself the golden pickle award when my brother (my 'go-to guy") pointed out that spouse had been lying to me for quite a while. That floored me.
For some reason I'd only paid attention to the lying I knew, whatever came out after the bomb, not all the deception leading up to it. That made me sad, very sad.
Snooping is like dirty diapers. One whiff and you know what it is. Any more than that is like putting the poop under a light and trying to figure out what was processed.
