welp maybe time for an update on my sitch. nothing major has happened (no news is good news ?)
Spent the holiday weekend with my son and friends, wife spent it with her family and friends. Saw each other a few times, still getting along. W apparently went camping with friends and when I saw her she said "boy did I hear some stories about you !" (trying to get my goat) I said "oh yeah ?" and changed subject. end of that.
Was supposed to get "the papers" last week; probably today or tomorrow. Not looking forward to that.
3 months next week that we separated........I don't expect her to come back, but I do, I don't, but I do.....I hate this...
Every mass I attend, the homily (catholic sermon FYI) is about saying no to infidelity when the situation arises. Of course my wife needs to be hearing this but won't come. It does me good to hear it anyway.
Had a cookout with a close friend, then went on a bike ride through town, followed with up a couple of long islands and some hot wings....1 a.m. came too quick.
all in all, this new life I was forced into is ok; the major plus is I get to see my son all the time. downside W doesn't want to spend time with me or him and I together.
M 31 W 26 M 6 S 6 S 3 Separated 6/2008 Back together 10/2008 All you need is love
p.s. being apart from her is driving me nuts, no matter where or how many times I go out, how many good looking women I see, or how many friends I talk to. No matter where I go, I hear songs on the radio that remind me of her too. I guess everyone has that problem though. I feel like i'm just GAL and not DB'ing. Am I missing something ?
M 31 W 26 M 6 S 6 S 3 Separated 6/2008 Back together 10/2008 All you need is love
W is trying to tell herself that she doesn't need OM, which is good, because he's happy with his girlfriend (former ex/now current)
when she's depressed about him leaving her, she loves to take it out on me, reminding me how I took her for granted (forget the fact that he took her for granted to; its all about what I have done still)
M 31 W 26 M 6 S 6 S 3 Separated 6/2008 Back together 10/2008 All you need is love
I'm new to this forum and have been following your story.
My H moved out on Aug 21st. He is having an A with a 21 yr old who works at his company. This is his second affair in 5 months. We have only been married a year but we have known each other for about 18 years. We have a 16 yr old D together and were high school sweethearts. He left us when she was 2 and married someone else. They had a son then he divorced her when his son was about 4 yrs old.
Long story short I am at the starting point of GALing and understanding the whole A situation and my heart goes out to you because from your posts you can see how much you love her the same way I love him. I was always there for him throughout all these years even when he was married (that was the hardest part).
I admire how much you love her. It is so hard to see the person you love loving someone else. I just don't know if I can get through this again.
I am here to support you.
Me35/H35 D16/SS14 M-1yr/known H 18yrs 1st Bomb: 4/26 OW35 2nd Bomb: 8/17 OW21 Moved out 8/21/08 H filed D on 9/9/08
God determines who walks into your life...it's up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go.
Marisol I am so thankful you stopped by my thread. Life is still tough no matter how much you GAL. It's also hard when you have known the person a lot longer than you've been married. My heart goes out to you. I will read up on your sitch for the latest
M 31 W 26 M 6 S 6 S 3 Separated 6/2008 Back together 10/2008 All you need is love
