I really don't see it going that far, especially when he is in between steady jobs right now. I think that is a blessing because he got fired from his job only a few weeks after we started going to counseling and that is really the only thing keeping him from buying a house and having his buddies move in with him. I just keep waiting for him to start a new job and start talking about it again. I guess I just thought we were past that and when he brought up the furniture thing yesterday I just got a dose of reality. I have been to the place he is currently staying at and completly understand his urgency to move out and while we are probably not 100% ready to live together again (especially financially right now) I just wish he would stay put for a little while longer while we can get to a place to start making plans.
In some ways I feel like I am toeing the line and seeing what I can talk about without it leading to an argument, as far as relationship talks go. Yesterday went well considering the amount of things we talked about. I was going to wait until after our session but I just couldn't help it. I think in some ways we are past the LRT stage and moving to a place where we can and should talk about our relationship issues and almost to a place where I can start to talk about the things that I need and want. That is our assignment and so it is actually lining up with DR principles in a way.
I think the next two or three weeks are going to be really big changes. Our free sessions will be over and we will have to make the desicion to pay for more or to stop going. I hope we will still go even though it is expensive. At least a few more sessions together to get down to some deeper issues. We will also probably be in a new place financially as I am starting my own business and he will most likely have a new job. It feels like it is all going to come to a head.
