Moving her from Newbees

[Clayton]

I had my second session with DB coach on Wednesday. She suggested I concentrate on the following 2 goals.

1. Create a safe and secure environment/atmosphere for friendly conversation.

2. Validate her feelings, point of view and opinions.

We are already meeting semi-regularly for dinners etc and everything is going really well. I don't think there is much I need do for goal #1 except carry on doing what is working. We are only having lighthearted discussions about our day to day lives. Absolutely nothing heavy. I'm not sure when the R topic will come up. We will have to discuss it eventually. We can't just carry on living in this limbo forever without either of us knowing whats going on between us.

I think goal # 2 will have to wait until the subjects of discussion start to be based on something she has strong feelings about. That hasn't happened yet. I think we are both walking on eggshells at this point. I don't want to say anything to undermine our current friendship....and I'm sure she dosn't want to undermine it either.

Oh well.....keep on GALing and try to have patience.

I'm expecting to hear from her tomorrow as we are probably going to get together on Wednesday sometime for coffee...or whatever.

It has been 14 days since the last time we got together (she's been out of town for the long weekend).
14 days has been the longest I have gone without seeing her since we split back in May and it's been tough.