Very Scared.........don't be scared. When we are around people with PMA it tends to rub off on us and the same about being around people that are negative. I know from experience. I had two major role models in my life that were negative about almost everything in life. As they got older, they got more negative....and I realized I was getting to be just like them. It is very hard to detach emotionally from people that are in your family that are negative, but when it is friends.....even though you don't want to and you feel like you need friends at this moment....they are not helping you in the NMA. They see you hurting and their answer is to chew the foot off and get out of the trap. But, they are not the ones going through this and they are not the ones to live with the results of the actions. They mean well, I'm sure, but it isn't what you need to hear at the moment, so you may have to distant yourself for a while, maybe even meet some new friends that are more postive and supportive.
Whenever I was around my two relatives that were so negative, I tried to see how cheerful I could be and whenever they started the same old stuff again....I would immediately try to change the subject. If they don't get the hint, then you have to distant yourself to get stronger. It takes a lot of strength to be around negative opposition b/c it will drain you dry. So, do whatever you have to do in order to keep your PMA and stay upbeat and healthy. That is important. I read all the time that exercise is very good for this. Do you have a work out program? I wished I was physically able to do that. It is good for depression and self esteem and just about everything that effects us.
Let me know how you are doing and if you have set any particular goals for yourself.
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
