Plodding towards my Path With Heart

[SuperDad]

Hi AG,
Thanks for the feedback. I did REALLY enjoy my mini-vacation. It is the first time since the bomb that I really did something just for fun away from the kids...except of course for my triathlons, but that is not exactly relaxing!

Anyway, we spent the whole time in Manhattan and just soaked up the place. All that energy around you and yet on vacation you're not in a hurry at all. I did go the the 9-11 Memorial Gallery right before heading out of town. Wow was that powerful, a place of incredible evil deeds, yet of incredible hope and humanity. I can't wait to go back when the monument is completed. I got goosebumps just looking at the renderings they had of what it will look like.

Otherwise, just waiting on the L to get back to me on my suggested edits/questions on the draft settlement. I am still sorting through exactly how I want to approach W to tell her that I am ready to proceed with the big D. I have definitely decided to talk to her before filing and after L and I have agreed on the settlement we will file if she refuses mediation. (for the 3rd time)

Even more important is how we will tell the kids. Of course, the nature of that conversation depends strongly on how she reacts to the first convo.

Do you have a good handle on the terms that you need to be able to settle?

Not in detail...I am really struggling with the whole thing. I don't know what I want that I can really get. I basically just want her to disappear off the face of the earth and leave me and the kids alone. Odds of that are nil. I guess I can negotiate on almost any point as long as the whole package leaves me (1) financially stable and (2) with lots of time with the kids.

Take care, SD