I spent 11 months dumping my heart out but getting no where. I took full responsibility and validated her feelings she was having from the beggining. (wants/needs not met)
The hardest part of that is when they don't respond. Ignor you.
I had something happen last week and it has really got my head in a mess. I gave in and sent her an email after about 10 days NC. It was pretty simple but I am sure it was "pursuing in nature". It just said, I miss you so much in my life. I wanted to be there for you and the girls. I wanted you to be proud of me. I haven't played late night cribbage in a long time.
She responded back (which is rare in itself) and said she was sorry. Really. She told me she was proud of me. Thought I did a great job on the house. ( I bought a house that had to be remodeled before it was livable and that really cut into the wants and needs time she wanted from me) She told me how the girls were doing and she said we could play cribbage (on-line cribbage) sometime.
I responded back and told her I didn't want her to just be proud of me for the house. I wanted you to be able to say- thats my man and he loves me. He is working hard right now but he is getting something accomplished. And he has a dangerous job but he takes me and my girls with him on every call (in a photo).
I finished it by saying, I am sure you have the girls ready to start school.
She responded to that but only about the girls and how they were true to their personalities in how they were feeling about the start of school.
So she responds (or at least recently started) to some things as long as it doesn't seem R related. But what do I do here? Do I keep going with my LRT or do I text her for a game next week?
