I have had this kind of conversation with my W in the past. They don't seem to be able to draw a connection with what they are saying and the situation they have created. for example, the other day W called me to tell me how D5 is acting out of emotion rather than logic. I had to keep from laughing and telling her that she is doing the very same thing.
The more of this odd behaviour I see in my W I truely believe that this has more to do with mental issues than with a character flaw.
M35 W37 S9 D6 M12 yrs Know 15 yrs Bomb 1/28/07 My Sitch Failure is the opportunity to start again more intelligently - Henry Ford