My D17's BF has no relationship with his father. His other brother is dads favorite but BF is ignored. On the other had, BF's mother is very protective of her son.
As I understand it, BF's dad is in his mid 50's and still smokes pot from time to time. His mom and his dad have a strained relationship as his dad is also controlling of her.
So, lately I've been helping BF with various things. His computer experiments, and I taught him how to solder to put together some electronic kits I had laying around.
D17 says he's really excited about all the new things he's learning. She told her mom about this stuff.I like the boy and I can't see how a father wouldn't be proud of him. He's a good kid and very smart.
So, a little while ago I called W to give her an update on D13's health. While we were talking I mentioned D17 and her problems with BF's mom. W went on to talk about how they have a messed up marriage so she's unhappy and takes it out on D17.
I'm thinking that W should look at their marriage and realize that it's way worse that anything we ever did. He's an unhappy, mean man.
Anyway, she goes on to say how 'wonderful' it is that BF has such a good connection with me. That it's good for him and for me. She is genuinely happy about it.
Then she jokes "Don't get too attached though, you know what happens when D17 decides to let them go" and laughs. See, we've gotten to 'like' old BF's but when D17 finally realizes they are not as compatible as she likes and breaks up with them we lose too.
Kind of like a divorce.
It was an interesting discussion. It's strange that we can have these discussions when she 'has to be divorced'.
