I know the feeling. We're also in the process of selling our "dream" home. The one W wanted so we could start our family in earnest. She has convinced herself I don't care about that home. She tells me and others that I was never willing to participate in taking care of it -- she can look at the murals on the bedroom walls I painted, the woodwork, the deck, all the blood sweat and tears I poured into that home... and still say I didn't want it.
Well, she's made that true... I no longer do want it, not without my wife and my family. She has turned the fruits of my labor -- and the fruits of my love -- into ashes in my mouth.
But we will move forward in our lives and do better. Someone will find you to be the wonderful person you are. Christ will lead you to a better place.
LO, thanks for asking. For the last month, I have had nightmares about him seeing her again. and in the nightmares, he was not telling me things but was not covering his tracks either. I tried to brush the nightmares aside but the dreams have been tormenting me. I was not able to sleep well. Last night, H woke up and found me wide awake. I told him that I had a nightmare but not about what. He probably guessed what hte nightmare was and held my hand. I am thinking about bringing up R talk again. We had not had any R talk for a few months already. However, I don't know how to bring it up to not cause an argument. If the nightmares were just that, then he would probably be upset. If they were true, I am not sure what I would do.... Meanwhile, life is OK. I am busy with kids starting school. My school will start in about 2 weeks. Life will change once I start as I won't have all the time dedicated to H. This will be a test for us as I have been a full time housewife for a few years. Having him to share some responsibilities (which he had done before when I worked) will be a change for him.
LO, I totally know what you mean about hoping the settlement will just GO THROUGH as is. H is agreeing to soooo much right now, and its on paper and signed, just need it to go through. I fear he will change his mind as well, and he is being very generous at the moment.
Well.. it happened.. he changed his mind on EVERYTHING that we agreed on a month ago. He has decided to take me to court on parenting time/custody. I am so sad and scared that my little girl will be raised 50% of the time by a woman with no morals.. My baby doesn't deserve this...
Then take him to court for more money AND custody.
Come on Olive, he's a philandering husband who is leaving you for his affair partner. I think your lawyer can get some sympathy from the judge and get you somethiong closer to what you wanted.
Then take him to court for more money AND custody.
Come on Olive, he's a philandering husband who is leaving you for his affair partner. I think your lawyer can get some sympathy from the judge and get you somethiong closer to what you wanted.
I agree!!! What does your L think??? Maybe this could actually work out better for you??? (((((LO))))))
doesnt this moron realize that he'll be paying his L for something you and him can work out? is there any chance that you can calmly bring up the subject, perhaps make a fair schedule about visitation time and present it as a "sugestion"? give it a try hon, I shudder to think how much it costs to have a court battle, hugs))))) will be praying for you.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
That sh$t. Ok, you need to fight this. Cat is right on spot. If he doesn't like it, then go for whatever you can get. MONEY and TIME. this is total bs!!
I will be thinking and praying for you
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
My baby doesn't deserve this...