She is very lost, and every one of us is guilty of snooping one time or another. It may actually been good for you to see that, for you to move on and know if you are wasting your time even trying.
For her, Like yoyo said to be ruining another man's life/family and her own is really sickening.
You are on the path to recovering my friend, you will be ok, you will move on and find someone else in the future who is worthy of you.
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.