He says that he has done so much for me, has tolerated and respected so much....
Well, isn't he a great guy?!?! Sounds like a true, upstanding role model for your kids. He's giving, tolerant and respects others. A real catch.
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I told him that he needs to respect my boundaries, that I need those. And that if he is not willing to do so, then there is another option...that he ignores my wishes and does what he wants, but that in that case I do not want a friendship with him, that he can pick up the kids at the door again, and I will no longer have anything to do with him. I told him I wasn't afraid of living without him in my life. I'm not.
Good girl. Your request is not unreasonable and should be respected. You are right...you are not a doormat and shouldn't tolerate being treated like one.
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I told him he no longer has values and morals in life. That he is not the man he used to be in that sense.
You know that this probably went in one ear and out the other. But we've all said things we probably shouldn't have. I told mine he was having a MLC. Shockingly, he denied it.
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I have no idea who is directing this circus...whether it's H or ow. It's not important really....but if he cannot and does not respect my boundaries, our friendship will end.
Do you really like circuses? Don't get dragged into the drama. Say what you need to say and then remove yourself from the situation. IMO, you are right - if boundaries are crossed, the relationship/friendship will be affected.
You're right - it isn't a contest. You are their mother. You can not be replaced. End of story.
Sorry for the sarcastic nature of the post. When these H's negatively impact the kids, it gets to me every time. Do what is in their best interest - it is the thing that I concentrate on all of the time. It is hard, but right.
