He told the kids that they could call ow's parents granny and grandad....
It repulses me.
It's not detachment, but it's how it makes me feel.
I'm sure that I disappoint you all by not being 'detached' enough by now, but I'm just human and sometimes this stuff really hurts.
I don't post anymore either, Cinders.
Disappoint us? Not at all. Detachment doesn't mean that you don't have feelings. You are not a robot. And when it comes to our kids.....how can this stuff not hurt? I'd be worry about you if this didn't hurt.
I am a year into this and, quite frankly, am doing well. I don't give him a lot of "mind space". There are rumors flying all around about him - apparently he is quite the topic of conversation in our little community. I have heard everything from he's doing meth to he's having an affair with a (former) good friend of mine. My reaction? Whatever...just don't try and drag me into your drama.
But...I don't do as well when it comes to my kids. I would be as repulsed as you, because it isn't right. Being a grandparent, or an aunt or uncle is an honor and should be treated as such. The "title" shouldn't be handed out to anyone who happens to be in a child's life today...and who may not be there tomorrow. And shame on OW's parents for not handling the situation better. It simply isn't appropriate at this time for these titles.
But, honestly, how do you approach your H about this? He obviously doesn't find anything wrong with this....which shouldn't surprise any of us because many of our H's have such clear thinking nowadays.....
In any event, your post really just struck me because I thought you were being a little hard on yourself. Your feelings are normal, given the situation. You have come a long way - you'll still go up and down, but don't discount how far you have come!
