Poet, What your h is doing is projecting on to you what he's thinking about himself or what he's done or planning to do, etc. As for the tampering with the lock, it may or may not have been done, but his paranoia is in full swing. He's looking for an excuse to move his camper and he used the tampering of the lock to do so. Oh, yes, they all have their secret little hideaways that we aren't suppose to be able to find.
As for changing the locks, he knows that you'll do it and he wants you to think you can't keep him out. In other words, he would most likely tamper with the new locks on your place if you had them installed. You might want to check with your lawyer to see if you can do it with him out of the house. In my state, I had to ensure that all of his personal belongings were out of the house and draft separation papers were in his hands before I could change the locks.
Don't accept ownership for the accusations he's tossing to you. Just say "I'm sorry you feel that way" and then hang up. Fueling his anger is what keeps him going and validates why he left. The less you react to his crazy making behavior the better. I know it's not easy, but you've got to find a way to deal w/him in a different manner. He's acting like a spoiled 2 yr. old that is teething.
I would just let him sit in that camper and fume a while. The less contact you have w/him the better. Time to live your life and find a way to remain sane and not allow him to drive you to the loony bin. Remember, you didn't break him, therefore, you can't fix him and no you can't have rational conversations w/him either.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
