the real reason that I'm angry now isn't about what he did to me, but about how he continues to treat our children.
I believe that how he treats your kids is one reason, but I also believe there is some anger over what he did to you Bethie. That is not unreasonable you know. Reality is you/we all have reason to be angry or hurt by that.
I know anger over the children is real, you know that I am currently living that to an extreme. However I also couldn't write that letter right now because I am also still angry with her. Reality is until we get that talk/email/phone call from them with a reasonable apology and admission of their mistakes, there is going to be some anger simply because we feel we at the very least deserve the apology.
My point in all of this is that I understand what you are saying, but I also want to make sure that you know that it is okay for you to still be upset and hurt by what he did to you. One of the things that troubles me with people is that they sometimes forget that they have a right to be hurt. It doesn't affect your day to day or how you live your life, it just simply is hurt that you carry with you because of the complete and utter lack of closure. Do you understand what I mean?
Anyway, reality is that your H and my W are like two peas in a pod when it comes to their children. My W also used to be what I considered the best mother that I could ask for. It is very hard to watch someone whom you admired for that ability to now seemingly have lost all concept of parental responsibility. I think for people like you and me it is a driving force for us to be great parents to our children and try as best as we can to compensate for the lack of two solid parents. Very sad that it took that happening to our children, and all we can do is our best for them to soften the blow.
Keep taking care of yourself and being that wonderful mother Bethie.....
