Letting go, Moving on

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Because this is the third time around. 1998, 2005, and now.

I see your point and I can see how you would be skeptical. However, you are here so I have to assume that you hold out some hope.

I know in the past you put a lot emphasis on being a strong man for her and I seem to remember that you gave her an ultimatum or pressed her to return at one point. I could be mistaken though. I do remember that when I came here you here in a rebuilding phase.

What I'm getting at is what have you done to help her? I'm not trying to be critical, I'm honestly asking. You say she has been abused in the past and she is carrying emotional issues from that. You also say that she has trust issues. Has she gone to therapy to try and resolve these issues? Have you offered to help her in that way?

What you are doing in terms of enforcinging your boundaries is fine, but I wonder if what she needs is real help because her issues seem to run far deeper than you and her.