Darlin, my sitch is not really going to help you see any positives in yours. Mine is over (except for the legalities). In a nutshell H dropped the bomb on me in early Dec 07, I found out about OW 24DEC & 25DEC and he walked out and moved in with OW 26DEC. He's moved home twice since then but not to really work on the M, only to try to assuage his own guilt. The D will be final soon. The end.
An A doesn't have to mean the end unless you want it to. If you can't forgive it will eat you alive. Don't assume it's an affair based on Amex bills. Don't ASS-U-ME anything!
I'm not too good on the advice today. In a bit of a dark place myself but all I can say is maintain hope until you see none left. When you have none left, make some.
You're very young and there is so much ahead of you. Don't forget that. You are the most important person in this equation. What you do now to GAL and make your own happiness outside of your M will help you grow and just might draw your H back toward you.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
