New month, new strategy

[istherehope]

(((Daisy))), (((Lola))),

Thanks for your posts.

Daisy, yes new strategy new month...I can do this! It's true, not sure how much him contacting me is about him vs. me. Contact has never really slowed down, and a part of me thinks he's afraid of losing me, like I will leave for sure if he makes no effort. Anyway it's impossible to speculate and I certainly won't ask! He's changed so much in the last 2 weeks alone, really started to come out of depression, so new things could happen relatively quickly (just pray they are M friendly things!).

Lola, this is a hard one because I do think I should let my H take the lead on a lot of things, as it is true that I dominated, even if unintentionally. I also want him to feel manly if that makes sense, since he seems to be questioning whether he could make a good husband. However you're right about me getting to control my own life. This is why Dublin will be such an exciting thing if it plays out right--me taking a trip home, coming by the house, choosing the dates and times that suit me, and not organizing anything with him. I have found being unavailable to work well too, but only on Sundays for some reason. He's become a real creature of habit these last few weeks. When and if he starts actually calling regularly instead of just sending IMs, then I may try the ringer off trick as well, because, like you, I hate not to answer my phone...

ITH