Jak, I counted 24 times last month that my W and I attended either a dance venue, lesson, or practiced at home. We're dancing a lot.
As predicted, my W came around and asked me if I wanted her help (on her terms, of course). I decided to try it her way (less emphasis on steps, more focus on upper body). It worked-out rather well this time.
Today will be spent preparing for our Hawaii trip. I will shop for some clothes, and new tennis shoes.
We'll see what kind of state-of-mind my W is in today--she was down and irritable yesterday. I'll connect to the extent wanted, give her space if she's crabby, and be helpful if she needs something done.
Even if she's been difficult to be around, I sleep in the marital bed, so that there is potential for touching. Last night she touched my shoulder with her hand, as she slept.
I think she needs this trip more than I do (maybe I'm underestimating my fatigue). I'm able to have quiet routine as part of my day. She needs to get away. I'm glad I agreed to this trip, and gave her permission to spend the money.
I certainly don't want to use dancing to make my W jealous. However, I think it's good for my self-confidence to have the skill to connect with ladies socially on a dance floor. It's good for my W to see this.
I guess she wants to make sure that she gets quality dance time with me also.
CL
Last edited by Concerned_Listener; 09/01/0803:21 PM.
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
