W is going to take them next weekend for the first time (its been 3 months since she moved out) so I'll have some time to myself, nothing exciting planned, will work around the house, going to church without the kids is going to hurt.
Glad to hear you're busy and sounds like doing good. Busy is good I think!
I think it is good that she is going to take them like that and face reality a bit (well for most of us anyway). Are you going to bail her out if she calls you for that do you think???
Also, yeah, I hate going to church without the kids! Esp. my church is very couples and family oriented so I feel like I am sticking out like a sore thumb and I still get people asking me every time where the kids are and I have to say with their dad which I hate!!! To me that is the worst part of this, and if I don't get 50% custody or more I will be a basket-case. I am glad it is working out so well for you custody-wise!!! Karen
H4H: Get out and do something you either have never done before or have always wanted to do
Take a nap its true, I have never been able to just lay down and sleep and I don't know if I can.
Quote:
Karen: Are you going to bail her out if she calls you for that do you think???
more info please, if it has anything to do with the kids I'll be there no questions asked.
Quote:
Karen: I still get people asking me every time where the kids are and I have to say with their dad which I hate!!!
this will be the first time for me, and I know I'll get the same questions, I'm not looking forward to this, not having my babies with me on Sunday morning, we have a big breakfest and get all dressed up and go to church, we always sit in the same place see the same people, has always been me and the kids, W never went, so when I show up by myself, maybe I'll go earlier (to a different mass.)
FYI Karen, I'm trying not to turn my W into a basket case (not yet) will wait till D is final, don't want her to call L and fight for custody.
M45 W41 M10.75 years D9, D6, D6, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08 Date I'll forgive W for A = never
FYI Karen, I'm trying not to turn my W into a basket case (not yet) will wait till D is final, don't want her to call L and fight for custody.
Jeff, isn't it too late for that? I mean, I think your W already is a basket-case at least sometimes!!!
I just don't think it's a mom thing or a woman thing or whatever. You have been your kids' primary caretaker as have I. I've done at least 90% of raising my kids for 14 years now, so for H to even try for primary custody is unbelievable to me. But if I was their dad, I think it should be the same thing. I was raised by my single widower dad so I don't think it's a gender thing or at least shouldn't be. Karen
The going to church thing alone is difficult. I don't know if I will ever get used to it. My church is also very family and couples and I feel so obviously divorced. No one says anything to me about it (I don't have any kids to ask about), but I feel alone. Sitting next to my H at church was a joy in my life. And we did that up until May. Even when we weren't sleeping in the same bed and barely even talking to each other, we still went to church together. It has been such a difficult adjustment.
Jeff, you are doing such a great job. You are such a wonderful father. You deserve so much better than what your W is offering you.
Sara
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08
Thanks Karen and Sara, I hope everyone has a great weekend.
Sara, I hope God has something better planned for me, I pray almost every night and it makes me feel bad, I know there are so many other people out there that need Gods help more than me.
Just hoping someday I'll find love again. To kiss, to hold, to touch I miss these so much, to talk to laugh with someone special would be wonderful. *** soon God please ***
Respectfully Submitted
M45 W41 M10.75 years D9, D6, D6, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08 Date I'll forgive W for A = never
The going to church thing alone is difficult. I don't know if I will ever get used to it. My church is also very family and couples and I feel so obviously divorced. No one says anything to me about it (I don't have any kids to ask about), but I feel alone. Sitting next to my H at church was a joy in my life. And we did that up until May. Even when we weren't sleeping in the same bed and barely even talking to each other, we still went to church together. It has been such a difficult adjustment.
I know what you mean, sara. We were attending church together up until about a month before she moved out and she was sleeping on the sofa by that time. Now she doesn't attend at all.
But she has stuff up on her wall. Pretty scriptures and Christian sayings. Enough to make ya' gag.
She is a lost soul and I pray for her.
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."
But she has stuff up on her wall. Pretty scriptures and Christian sayings. Enough to make ya' gag.
She is a lost soul and I pray for her.
OK, that makes sense to me that she doesn't attend. Their actions are so non-Christian that just makes sense. I don't get spouses like my H though who I know he attends church 2X month with our kids. I'm guessing he doesn't go when he doesn't have the kids, but still weird to me. I don't get your W having the Christian sayings or scriptures other than guessing maybe they are just cute words to her or something; or she wants to appear like a Christian even though she isn't or acting like one at least? I pray too; if they don't stop and repent I don't think the outcome is good for the WAS. Karen
My XH is the strangest. He is an ordained minister to begin with. And he has NEVER stopped going to church. He made OW go to church with him for awhile. He says he needs God now more than ever. WTF? And I believe that he started his affair with OW in the first place because the thought he needed to witness to her about Christ. Geesh!
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08
its true, I have never been able to just lay down and sleep and I don't know if I can.