I think you are doing amazingly well. The thing I would say is that you may have to accept that this will carry on after the 6 weeks, when you return from Poland.
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This means I have 6 weeks to try and demonstrate that this won't be a bad thing, and that we don't need more time apart. This will need to come from him though, as if I suggest anything, it is automatically unacceptable.
You need to drop the rope hun. You have no control and just because he set this original time limit doesn't mean he will be sorted by then. In fact, I think he has been preparing you for the fact that he may not by saying it will take longer. I'm really sorry if my words have upset you at all but I think you have to look at this realistically and realise that what is working is you not pressurising and you being understanding of his needs and if he needs longer you need to accept that if you want to carry on with this.
I am not trying to be negative as I see so much good and hope in your situation, truly I do. He is initiating contact with you and not cut off all ties. He has shown willingness to work on the relationship which is what you have asked for and also shown consideration for you by offering the schedule as he thought that would help. Now in return you need to give him back what he is asking for. Space and time to sort himself out. That is not giving up on the relationship; you are just being a good wife by understanding and allowing his needs.
Post your emails here first for a while if you want. I did this for ages, and still do, as I realised all my messages to my h were pressurising. This is such a great resource to use for this.
I don't know what you have been advised re your call on Wednesday but I would personally take it. You don't want to be obstructive and you also want to reward good behaviour. You could maybe make yourself busy on Wednesday night and then you would be genuinely GALing and not fretting so you are not waiting for the call if, or if it doesn't happen. Or, go out and call him back later but if he has arranged with you to call then it may seem a bit off if you are out? Just my thoughts...
I really like your plan for Dublin but do you need to tell him your itinerary? You can just say I will be there from Wednesday to Saturday (or whenever it is). That's all; leave it to him then to contact you. You strike me as someone who likes to plan and stick to it. Would it be a 180 to be more casual and laid back about it?
