Q&A with the WAS

[istherehope]

Hi HIC and Christa,

I'm a LBS with a WAH...I know that the male/female perspective on these situations may be different, but I'd still love to hear your perspective as there must be some similarities.

My questions for you:

1)Did you ever say things about the relationship, undermining things like you didn't know if you wanted to be married anymore? If you did say these things, did you mean them at the time or were you testing your H in any way?

2)Did you feel depressed at the time that you were the WAS, and was this part of what led to the decision to WA?

3)During the time that you were the WAS, on any level were you glad that your H was fighting for the marriage even though you wanted less pressure about it? I guess what I'm trying to ask is whether this commitment made up in any way for the way you felt you'd been neglected in your Rs?

Thanks so much!

ITH