Why did you have to go to his house very late at night? You are chasing him and you are not letting him be.

You also should not ask him questions about his getting his things so you don't have to look at them.

Either you want the guy to be in your life as your husband or you don't.

It is as if you are trying to play it both ways and it will not work.

I think you have got to learn to just let him be and be very still about what he is/is not doing. You are interfering in the process of what he is going thru.

The Bomb: 08/05
H moves out: 06/2006
H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07
H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08
H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09
Divorced 08-12
Kids: 22, 20, 19