Q&A with the WAS

[No Longer BH]

Chris, if my H was to come home, at first I would be very happy, but then the resentment and anger that I have been keeping on the back burner would come flooding out.

I would hope that my H would do some of the following:

Have an open and honest conversation where he would answer any and every question I had with COMPLETE honest. He would also have to be COMPLETELY transparent in his life until I felt safe again. This means all passwords to email accounts, can check cell phone whenever I wanted, key logger installed on his computer and he would tell me where he was and what he was doing for all of his day. Not saying it would be easy to live like like, but after a the trust established there would no longer need to be these checks and balances.

I would also hope that we could have a discussion where he took complete responsibily for his actions and tried to see from my side the pain he caused..if you want a good place to see it go to survivinginfidelity.com. THere is sooooo much hurt on the BB that I could not stay there for long. Might give you insight on what to say to show understand with H.

Finally, I would want him to be professing his undying love for me and trying to "win" me back. He would have to work really hard because of the vile way he tried to destroy our M.

Hope I have not been too harsh....I really would not be that harsh with H either, but he would not know that. I now have a much better understanding as to why people have A. I know his had nothing to do with me.....she is not attractive AT ALL and is a size 18/20 while I am 5'8", size 4/6 with a very curvy figure. Glad I finally saw her because it really drove the point home that its about building his ego, not me.

Good Luck.