No. It's not your job - he's a big boy it's up to him.
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Do I have to write up a schedule for him?( whenever we've come to some sort of schedule where H helps out with the kids stuff...it works for about 2 weeks.
Having said no - I'm about to do a flip. The issue of him spending time with the kids in order for him to have a relationship with them is up to him. BUT the issue of him sharing the parenting, so that you get a break and have some capacity to rebuild your own life may have to be up to you.
Have you thought about getting a parenting plan together with him, using a mediator or whatever regulatory system you have in your area so that he can take some responsibility for looking after them?
A parenting plan would do 2 things - it would make him SHARE the responsibilities of caring for his children and it would give you some time out - which everyone of us needs from time to time.
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I listened...and I heard H say he wants to reconnect with his kids. .. I did all I could to step aside. I know it takes time, but you'd think he'd jump at the 'open door' to be with his kids.
Yeah - you did good. I suspect there's an element of him wondering if this is a trap (men are such cynical creatures), but I think the biggest issue is that he's just not himself and he doesn't know how to do it - hence a nudge along with a formal agreement for him to do his bit might help break the status quo.
Take care, V
V
Never make someone a priority, who makes you an option.
